I was parenting them "in the middle."
Instead of considering their individual needs, I was parenting both of them as 3 year olds. In lieu of focusing on Elijah's masculinity and Hannah's femininity, I was blending it together. As opposed to training them according to their unique bent (as many theologians interpret Proverbs 22:6).
I was thankful that God woke me up from this slumber. Though I do still slip back into this laziness (especially now with 3 kids), at least now I can more easily recognize my tendency to do this.
Of course, I'm lazy in a number of other ways in my parenting as well. Working on it.
- More on Lazy Parenting
- I Should Be Disqualified As a Parent
- My Son Called Me Out
- Recommended: Shepherding A Child's Heart (the book I was reading when God opened my eyes to what I was doing)
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