Favorite Tweets from September

Whoa. This girl is now a teenager.

It's a month to remember.

And here are my top tweets from the past month:

From Others:

@DerwinLGrayWhen my mom was a junior in high school in 1971, the school nurse told her to ABORT me. She said, "NO!" Thank you mom.

@MatthewMurphyOur kids are our greatest responsibility. How are you investing in them? 

@BrandonSmith85“Being raised from the dead is never boring. Therefore every Christian has a stunning testimony.”

@NashaLending:  Learning about rooftop gardening from in downtown Greenville with Clemson MBA

@PaulTrippFreed from having to hide, deny or shift the blame, the cross enables you to stare your sin in the face with humility and hope.  

@DavidAQaoud:  One of the many reasons we should live in community: “When God gives us wisdom, he most often gives it through other people.” Kevin DeYoung



From Myself:

In the past, mission trips came to her. Now my daughter got to be on one of her own.  

Some Furman alumn just told me he was "old school" , b/c he started going at the Handlebar. Had to tell him what was up. #1996 

Is out of your mind already? SHOULD it be?

A gospel-centered church doesn't compare itself to other churches, but to the holiness of God. (via )

Room parents do amazing work. What a great partnership between schools, parents, & the community! 

Thankful for God's provision! Was offered 2 part-time jobs this week. Start both later this month.

"Talking about race & racial reconciliation can be downright terrifying."   

My 7-year-old: "I'm going to tell my kids that if they open their eyes when I pray, Santa won't bring them any presents."

Little girl sitting next to me during school lunch: "My parents don't know, but I haven't brushed my teeth in 3 days."

She's a Teenager!

Hannah, 3 days old.
As of September 25, at 12:29 AM, I have a teenager.

I really don't have much to write about that. No words can adequately capture what I feel inside. As a parent, you understand.

I remember cradling Hannah in my arms in the hospital, when she was about 20 hours old. I was weeping, as I thought: "In less than a day, she'll be twice as old as she is now."

Well, now she is 5698 times as old as she was in that moment. I'm feel just as uncertain and weak as a parent as I did then.

I fail all the time, but I think I'm doing OK. Even more important, Hannah thinks I'm doing fine. A couple of weeks ago, when I told the kids that I would be teaching a parenting class for young dads, she immediately exclaimed, "You'll be GREAT at that!" It was so encouraging to hear it from her, as I could tell she meant it from the heart.

She's a reflection of God's optimism and hope. She's beautiful, inside and out. She is growing in God, learning how to relate to others, and becoming more aware of herself.

Want to see how much her personality hasn't changed over the years? This video was done in 2006, when she was 4-and-a-half years old. We crack up to tears whenever we watch it. (The purpose was for it to be a part of a "thank you" to children's ministry volunteers in our church. The voice you hear is the Children's Ministry Director at the time.)


There is so much commentary I could give you about this video, but I'll just share this one thing: Her favorite (or was that frave-rit) Bible story that she referred to is when Solomon threatened to cut a baby in two (I Kings 3).

Hannah, 12.8 years old
I'm not fearing this stage of her life (the dreaded "teenager"). Our relationship is changing, but it's not for the worse. I get to relate to this young woman in a way that I could not have done with her when she was 4 or 5 years old. I am so thankful that I get to be her Daddy.

I'm even thankful I get to do things like buy her hot chocolate after an MRI at 10 o'clock at night. (See the picture to the right.)

Want to read more about her, and what I'm learning from parenting my daughter? Here are some posts from her previous birthdays:
And here's my post from this year on her birthday, on my other blog: Birthday Flashback.

Are You a Parent of a Teenager?

Do you have a teenage daughter, or will you soon have one? Be encouraged, and be joyful.

And here are some other articles that may be helpful for you:
I especially like the following excerpt of this last article, which I'll close with:
"What happens when the joyful little girl who knew the love of Jesus begins to look shadowed and burdened, wondering if it all makes sense?... As I attempt to love my daughter through her struggle, I am trying to get out of the way. I am trying not to let my sin hinder her progress."

Missing the Point of Rosh Hashanah

Our shofar, a ram-horn trumpet blown on Rosh Hashanah / Yom Teru'ah

If you have any Jewish friends (or family), you probably know that Rosh Hashanah begins this year on the evening of September 24. What you may not know is that how this holiday is celebrated (as the Jewish New Year) is not how it was originally intended.

Even more, your Jewish friends probably doesn't know this either.

Trumpets to New Year

Rosh Hashanah means "head of the year," and is celebreated on the first day of the Jewish month of Tishri. (The Hebrew calendar is a lunar-based calendar, with the first day of each month coming at the new moon.)

However, the origin of this holiday comes in Leviticus 23. At this point (vv. 23-25) it was called Yom Teru'ah, "day of trumpets." This was one of the seven major Feasts of the Old Testament. At that point, Tishri was the seventh month of the year, not the first. (For support of this, see v. 5, which puts the first month in the spring, when Passover was celebrated.)

What happened to make this shift? The most common explanation I've heard is that it came at the time of Hebrew exile in Babylon and Persia. Someone can correct me if I'm wrong, but I was told that one or both of those cultures had their new year in the fall (around the time of Tishri), and that when the Jews were in exile, they adopted that cultural practice.

Others say that the religious calendar begins in the spring, and the civil calendar begins in the fall (at Rosh Hashanah). But nowhere is this taught in the Hebrew Bible. In fact, the one time the term rosh hashanah is used (in Ezekiel 40), it most likely refers to the a day in the spring.

Either of these explanations misses the point of Yom Teru'ah.

Missing the Point

The defining moment of this Feast was the blowing of a ram's horn, or shofar. The holiday of Yom Teru'ah was ordained by God as a time to get the attention of Israel (as a loud blowing of a ram's horn would do), and to gather them for the Feast of Yom Kippur. In that solemn day, a great atoning sacrifice would be made for the whole nation of Israel. For most observant Jews (then and today), Yom Kippur is the most serious holiday of the year, as you can imagine. Therefore, Yom Teru'ah should be, too.

But nowadays, Yom Teru'ah (or Rosh Hashanah) is just a time to wish each other a "Happy New Year." We have completely missed the point! We have moved from a focus on giving attention, glory, and worship to the great Adonai, to giving each other sweet pleasantries.

I shouldn't be surprised. After all, at one time I was blinded to these truths, and to the truths about Yeshua Ha'Mashiach ("Jesus the Messiah"). And Jesus predicted the same (in John 12):
“He who believes in Me, does not believe in Me but in Him who sent Me. He who sees Me sees the One who sent Me. I have come as Light into the world, so that everyone who believes in Me will not remain in darkness."  (vv. 44-46)

I was once in this darkness, and by the grace of the Lord, I am in the light. And now, I feel burdened for my Jewish family and friends who are in the darkness and don't see the truth about the Messiah.

Missing the point about Rosh Hashanah or any other holiday is a symptom of the bigger issue of missing the truth about Jesus. I didn't always feel this weight, but God has grown it in my heart (as I explained in this post).

Does God Have Your Attention? 

Most Jews today are anticipating the coming of the Messiah. And when I was growing up and attended Hebrew private school, I was taught that the Messiah would only come when there was peace on earth. The goal, therefore, was to work really hard to bring about this peace.

But this, too, misses the point. We sinful humans can never overcome evil on our own. It's not that the Messiah will come when we get everything right in this world.

The truth is that He has come already, as a suffering servant, to get us right with God. We don't need a shofar to get our attention. What should get our attention are the truths that God is holy, and we are sinners.

And we definitely need more than pleasant well-wishes.We need faith in the great atoning sacrifice of God's Son, the Messiah, as the only way to bridge the gap between God's holiness and our sinful nature.


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Gardens of Home and Church

 

From J.D. Greear, God Uses Two Gardens to Grow Our Children --

The Home

"The home is the place where our kids will see the gospel lived out. It is where they see the unconditional love and forgiveness that flows from hearts touched by grace. It is as we do everyday life with our kids—cleaning the garage, driving in the car, going to bed—that we have the opportunities to apply the gospel to brokenness, pain, or conflict."


The Church

"Our kids need a “second family” to have a full sense of belonging and identity. They need mentors other than their parents to speak into their lives or for them to confide in. 

The church can’t make up for what isn’t happening in the home, but it can complement it."


I encourage you to read the full article.

Then read this book review of Connecting Church and Home.


**image courtesy of Tacluda via rgbstock.com

The Gospel for Middle Schoolers (and You)


Last week, I talked about the importance of the "why" of the gospel. But because I'm a parent of a middle-schooler, and an almost-middle-schooler, and because I lead a group of 6th grade boys in my church's student ministry, I am still thinking about this issue.

In fact, it's on my mind so much, I wrote another guest post for Family Matters. I hope you'll check it out.

It's called Helping Middle School Students Understand the Gospel.

In this post, I break down the gospel message into three parts (and I think much more clearly than in last week's post), and talk about why we tend to gloss over two-thirds of that message.

By the time you finish, I hope that you'll come to a deeper understanding of why your child (or student) needs the gospel, and why you need it, too.

Read the article, and I'd love to hear your feedback and questions (either here, or on the Family Matters blog).


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Parenting Articles and Resources

Harvard-bound? Not on his own, or even with only my help.
A list of resources for you. I think you'll find at least one or two to be interesting and helpful.

Earth-Bound Parenting (Paul Tripp). "In fact, if left to your own willpower and “righteousness”, you would choose earth-bound parenting 10 times out of 10. But don’t be discouraged by that statistic; the God who is speaking these words in Matthew 6 is speaking them with two feet on the ground. He left Heaven and came to earth to die for selfish, impatient and idolatrous parents like you and me."

It Takes a Village to Raise Kids (Jamie Ivey). Yes, fatherless children need mentors to be involved in their lives. But my children (and all children) need the same. "The more people in our kids’ lives that they trust and that are telling them the same truths we are, the better."

Using Guilt to Lead Kids to God (Jayson Bradley). Guilt may get short-term results, but it doesn't mean it should be a tool for long-term discipleship.

#HowToDad (General Mills). Yes, they are trying to sell you their product. But I still like this because of the positive message it portrays.



Don't Just Talk the Talk (Casey Lewis).  The author explains what it looks like to shepherd your family, and adds this exhortation: "Being a believer means we live according to God’s will; it means we walk the walk. So it doesn’t matter what you say. What matters is what you do."

Biblical Parenting: The Call to Formative Instruction (Tedd Tripp). The first of a three-part series. Tripp starts with the big picture, and then moves on to practical tips and ideas.

Cultivating Wonder in Our Children (Hannah Anderson). "We tend to believe discipleship happens through the accumulation of religious knowledge. A quick Google search for “children’s discipleship” brings back resource after resource — everything from catechisms to Bible memory systems to pint-sized devotional books – all promising to produce faith in the next generation of believers. What I rarely hear discussed is the necessity of discipling our children through “natural revelation.”"

Missing the "Why" of the Gospel

I have two questions for you: What is the gospel, and Why do we need to focus on the gospel?

The first question is probably the easier of the two, though not as easy as you may think. A couple of years ago, The Christian Century tried to see if the gospel message can be summarized in seven words or less. That wasn't conclusive, as you can imagine.

You could write an entire blog post about the definition of "gospel," and you'd still not be 100% complete and clear. In fact, the Gospel Coalition blog even had a series called Gospel Definitions

But for the purpose of this post, let's agree (I hope) that the gospel includes these points:
  • It's the good news (literally) of God's story of redeeming this broken world
  • The central act of God's story is the birth, life, ministry, death, resurrection, and ascension of Jesus of Nazareth, the Messiah promised in the Hebrew scriptures.
  • It is an invitation for all people to put their trust in God for the forgiveness of sins.

Here is a great five-minute video that explains God's story in a simple framework of 3-2-1, and with a cool accent...


We could say so much more, . . . . Please feel free to add your thoughts in the comments below.

A Wrong Gospel

Over the years, I have spent a lot of time with children and students in church settings. For most children who have grown up in church, there is a problem of true gospel understanding. Many children (especially at a young age) equate the Christian life with a list of things to do and not do. And they measure their acceptance by God according to their keeping of the "rules."

This trust in a false gospel generally leads to one of three paths:
  1. Rejection of all the "trappings" of religion once they have the freedom to choose, such as when they go off to college. 
  2. Continual frustration and stress as they work harder and harder to earn the favor of God and of others.
  3. Repentance of their trust in this false gospel or works, and understanding that their acceptance by God is based on His grace. (Yes, I know we can argue God's sovereignty versus man's freewill, but let's not go there today.)
I pray that my children would embrace the third path. And I have to help them do so.

Want more? Check out these two short sermon snippets from Jeff Vanderstelt: How to Make Disciples and Everyone Is an Unbeliever.

So What?

As Christian parents, we spend a lot of time teaching the what of the gospel, but how much are we focusing on the "So what?" We often miss the question of why the gospel is so important.

Our children in preschool and grade school (and beyond?) can tell you all about what Jesus did, and what God calls us to do in response -- "go to church," "read the Bible," "pray," etc. But do they understand why that is so important?

(Of course, I'm counting my kids in the group as well. These are the questions that weigh on my soul.)

Our understanding and trust in the gospel must go beyond the facts about Jesus. They must lead us to pursuing and trusting in Jesus Himself. We don't just need to embrace the good news about Jesus, but we need to embrace what is so good about that news. The good news is only good when we understand how bad we are.

Pastor and theologian Thabiti Anyabwile gives a mild rant about this issue, and concludes with this,
I wonder if the cliff notes references to “the gospel” doesn’t blunt our understanding, meditation, application, and enjoyment of the incredible realities accomplished for us through the Son of God.  Are we inoculating people against the actual gospel with our frequent but unexplained references to “the gospel”?

Speaker and author Sally Lloyd-Jones reminds us,
"How do we give hope to children? When we take the focus on them and put it back on God where it belongs. . . .

Children don’t need to be told to try harder, believe more, do it better. That just leaves them in despair. The moral code always does.

We don’t need a moral code. We need a Rescuer."
Contrary to all our fix-it-now, formulaic approaches, the best we can do for our children (in our homes and our churches, in our communities and our world) is to simply tell the story of Jesus. Proclaim how great He is, and even as we invite them to trust and follow Him, they must understand that their lives are not about them, but about God. It's His Story, and there is only one Hero in the Story -- Jesus.

So what is the why of the gospel? The whole point of this good news is to make me realize how great Jesus is, and to make me realize how much I need Him.

"For I am not ashamed of the gospel, for it is the power of God for salvation to everyone who believes, to the Jew first and also to the Greek."  Romans 1:16

Cautions

If you are like me, you'll want to add "be gospel-centered" to the list of things we need to do, as if it were a formula towards spiritual success. Just because we label something with the "gospel" doesn't mean it really is, and just because something isn't labeled with that term doesn't me it isn't.

For more about the concerns and benefits of the gospel label, read Tim Challies' excellent article The Gospel-Centered Everything.

But on a positive note, I'll conclude with these words from John Piper
“Parents teach your kids the gospel is not just something that begins the Christian life but empowers it, shapes it and sustains it. Pray, love, correct and demonstrate the love of God to your kids until he draws them they respond and He becomes their treasure and their great reward.”


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