Since I've had a goal to love my family better this year, I'm continually hunting down resources that can help me do that. And I'd like to share those helpful articles with you, too.
From Ed Welch, Three Relationship Rules:
- If something bothers you, give it to the relationship. Talk together, as opposed to making pronouncements. The key is putting the relationship first.
- When one person is working, the other person should be working too. Big one for me.
- If the other person asks you to do something and you can do it right away, then do it right away. Another big one for me.
From Michael Hyatt, How to Become Your Spouse's Best Friend [podcast and video]:Lots of great tips in this video and podcast, including these three practical steps:
- Make a list of what you want in a best friend.
- Become that person for your spouse.
- Keep sowing the seeds until the relationship blossoms.
From Tim Keller, You Never Marry the Right Person:
"Why would it be easy to live lovingly and well with another human being in light of what is profoundly wrong within our human nature? . . . So the biblical doctrine of sin explains why marriage—more than anything else that is good and important in this fallen world—is so painful and hard."
From All Pro Dad, Difficult Things Men Need to Understand About Marriage:
- Commitment is more important than love.
- Being right is overrated.
- Change is part of the definition of "alive."
- "My hopes and dreams" must submit to "our hopes and dreams."
- Denial is never a real-world solution.
- It's not what happens to you, it's how you respond.
From Paul Tripp, Romantically Pulling Weeds:
"A healthy marriage doesn't develop overnight; it takes the daily work of pulling weeds and planting seeds. We wish that with just a little sprinkle of romantic Miracle-Gro like Valentine Day's, our marriage would blossom, but that's not the reality."
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